- Written by one of our Why Not presenters
“A concept taught in Why Not that I’m passionate about is abstinence from sexual activity.
“Back before I became a Why Not presenter, I had heard that abstinence was the best option. However, that piece of advice really stuck with me when I began hearing it from my peers. I’ve been able to see the impact of sexual activity before marriage. One of the draws of sex before marriage is instant gratification. However, that gratification can come with plenty of potential risks; whether that be an unplanned pregnancy, STI’s/STD’s, depression, and/or losing sight of one’s value.
“I’ve been able to see the wisdom in remaining abstinent until marriage. It is the only 100% secure way to be able to avoid the physical risks like STD’s/STI’s, and having an unplanned pregnancy before being adequately prepared (such as not having a committed spouse and support system).
“I was not aware of the emotional risks when you have sex with someone prior to studying the Why Not program. Sharing that intimate part of yourself can leave someone feeling emotionally crushed after a break up. Crushed on a level that is far deeper than if they hadn’t engaged in sexual activity.
“Sometimes people feel like they need to have sex to be seen by others. They feel that their personal worth comes from how many people want to sleep with them or have slept with them. However, that isn’t true. In my experience, I have observed that many young people who engage in sexual activity feel a loss of worth and struggle with the unexpected emotional impact. In fact, studies show that of teens who have had sex, 2/3 wished they had waited longer.
“I have chosen abstinence, because I recognize the risks for me. I personally see the wisdom for myself to remain abstinent until marriage. I go into the schools as a Why Not presenter so that I can share about the risks of sexual activity before marriage. I hope that others can recognize the wisdom in remaining abstinent. I also love to share this information so that teens/adults can make an informed decision for themselves.”
References:
https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/rr6403a1.htm